then I saw myself
as if carried away,
as the river moved on.
Where have I gone?
– Mary Oliver,
A River Far Away and Long Ago
I realised recently that a lot of my recent work at The Advocate over the last year had been pretty introspective. Given I work as a news journalist and anything other than impartial reporting is usually frowned upon I wondered how I had been getting away with it for so long.
In January I bought a lamp off Justin Heazlewood, the ARIA award winning comedian and musician otherwise known as The Bedroom Philosopher. I did not realise until I drove away from his house why I recognised him and his incredibly thick glasses. (During the subsequent interview he described himself as a boy with those glasses and a bowl cut as having the appearance of “an egg with windows”).
He had returned home to Burnie because he needed to look after his sick mum, and I bought a lamp off him because I needed to romanticise the lighting in the living room of my new house. The overhead ceiling lights were bright and white and if I had my time again I would have made different choices during the building phase.
The lamp Justin sold me is brass and free-standing and now lights the area over the chair in my living room where I drink coffee in the morning and wine at night. The chair was my grandad’s, and my mum had it reupholstered for me as a housewarming gift.
I wrote about Justin’s connection to the suburbs of Burnie where he roamed as a kid, and how he had returned in recent years with a curious and newfound fascination with the place.
He had experienced a huge gamut of success in Australia’s entertainment industry and returned home because home was familiar, home was comfortable. I wrote that familiarity breeds comfort and I felt so fucking clever, but in retrospect it was probably an attempt at manifestation.
In March I spent a morning with Harry Badcock and Charlotte Grey, the organisers of the new Tasmanian music festival Good Gumnuts, and discussed why it was so important to them for the festival to cater to kids, too. Their baby boy gurgled and grizzled throughout the interview and between photographs I shook keys to get his attention and the article ended up being written predominantly about whatever he was doing.
I have never been great with children, something which I have struggled with greatly this year, but I delighted in being able to help entertain Freddy while interviewing his parents.
I also loved being able to tell the story of why hosting a festival that catered to families was so important to them, and why it could be important to readers of The Advocate. It helped that the festival was and is going to be held about a five minute drive from my new front door at Heybridge.
Like Justin, Harry and Charlotte had returned to Tasmania’s North-West for the comfort of home, though they also wanted to bring home a sense of what they had loved elsewhere, to ensure their lives continued to change and remain exciting here, as they would elsewhere.
And in July I spent some time in the home of photographer and teacher Lisa Garland, poking through her incredible collection of stuff and asking inane questions about everything I came across. She was generous with stories and insightful with observations about the things we collect and why the ways we store them in the spaces we inhabit are important.
Since she was a child herself, Lisa has taken photos of people in the spaces they inhabit and call home, documenting their connection to rooms and things and places as both art and anthropology. Her home is beautiful, but it was also overwhelming to me, as it has no blank spaces or unused areas, perhaps because I am yet to fill my home with the kinds of things that one collects over a lifetime of deeply loving the people I interact with.
I wrote about the details of her home, and where I knew them, the stories each detail told. I wrote about why there were two disco balls hanging over a stuffed pig on a skateboard in her studio, and how she had painted the walls of her living room pink when she had first bought the house 25 years prior.
I wrote about her connection to her home and the people she shared it with and in the weeks since I have realised that I was not just doing my job; interviewing someone with a story to tell.
I was asking for advice. I was seeking guidance. From Lisa, from Justin, from everyone I have ever interviewed, probably. Not explicitly, and rarely consciously. But there are things I want to know and I speak to these people because they appear to have a few of the answers.
How do you create a life worth living and find people to share it with who are worth sharing it with? And how do you hold onto them?
Are you shaped by the people you surround yourself with or do you surround yourself with people who affirm who you are?
Does your home, be it a house or a town or a van down by the river, become the foundation of the person you want to become?
Are you shaped by the space you inhabit or is the space you inhabit moulded by the choices you make?
What if you make the wrong choice?
What if I’ve made the wrong choices?
I fear that I live in constant fear of the choices I have made. I am, at once, confident that the things I have done are right for me while also terrified that I may one day learn I was wrong. I stand by the decisions I make and I am able to accept responsibility for the mistakes I make, though that does not replace regret. And every so often I make enough decisions in a row to add another layer of personality to this sense of self I’ve garnered, but all of that can be undone as we all live in constant fear of the choices that are made for us.
Just like everyone else, life changing decisions were made for me in early 2020, and I am still feeling the consequences of those choices now more than three years later. The results for me personally have been exhilarating, joyous, debilitating and devastating and I am sure my life would have now been drastically different were it not for the pandemic.
I think that prior to 2020 it was highly unlikely that I would have been able to, or would have wanted to, build a house in North-West Tasmania and plan my life around living there and writing for The Advocate for the foreseeable future. It is likely I would have become bored and used any money I had saved to leave, once again, as I have so many times before, for somewhere new and shiny and where I had not yet managed to create a strong enough sense of self to permanently tie to any particular place. And so I stayed and tried my best to navigate the pandemic with the tools I had at my disposal.
It is an incredible privilege to have been able to pay someone to build me a house to call a home, and I try to make sure to tell everyone who compliments me on it that it would not have been possible without a generous family and a pretty strange bit of federal government policy.
Others have worked harder than I and gained less, but I am not so naive as to think the world is a fair and just place. As a bartender in Canada I found the country’s tipping system wholly bizarre and unjust and a symptom of wider economic disparity, but I also took advantage of it and used it to fund multiple holidays and questionable purchases. I am not a martyr.
There is love within these four walls, and I am lucky to be able to indulge in that everyday. I will continue to fill this space with love, and stories, and things, and I will invite anyone who is interested to do the same.
I’m not sure what else I can do.